Spiritual T.I.P. for Today: Letting Go of Competing

First, I want to apologize for taking so long to get back to writing this blog.  Life happens and we are not always in control of everything that goes on in our lives. However, we are responsible for how we respond to those events and the attitudes that we hold while doing so.  The best attitudes to have are ones of love, support, and helpfulness while at the same time managing to take care of ourselves in the process.  Sometimes this means letting go of some things on our To Do List.  We are the ones who decide how to prioritize that list.


Letting go of competing or competition is big in our society which has been built on stressful, negative attitudes such  as “winner takes all”, “good guys finish last”, and “you have to walk over  others to succeed.”  There are other such dysfunctional attitudes and beliefs that are changing to more loving, helpful, fulfilling,  supportive, and successful ones.  You probably can name a few yourself.

This  “old school thinking” is  being replaced by “new era thinking” ushering in more positive,  health-promoting attitudes and practices such as— “teamwork”, “cooperation”, “it takes a village to raise a child”, “coaching and consulting”, “partnerships”, “personal responsibility”,  “we’re all in this together”, etc.

“Anyone who imagines they can work alone winds up surrounded by nothing but rivals, without companions. The fact is, no one ascends alone.” ― Lance Armstrong, It’s Not About the Bike: My Journey Back to Life

Competition means there has to be winners and losers.  Although we may have won, if that winning was at the expense of taking advantage of another, then it does not “feel good”.   This kind of destructive  winning leaves a bitter-sweet taste in one’s soul.   It is a shallow victory and takes a toll on one’s health and sense of well-being.

“I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They may reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.”
Shannon L. Alder

This is not to say that there is no “healthy competition” where competitors are doing their “own personal best” by taking personal responsibility for their performance rather than blaming others for their shortcomings.   This is shown in the Olympic games, team sports, playoffs, and other such venues where doing one’s person best is paramount over taking advantage of one’s competitors.   This brings a genuine feeling of accomplishment, one where you can be proud of your accomplishments and  truly feel good about yourself, win or lose.

“If you want to find the real competition, just look in the mirror. After awhile you’ll see your rivals scrambling for second place.”
Criss Jami, Killosophy

I invite you to join with me in doing “Your Own Personal Best”.

 “When you have done the best you can do, then nothing is left undone.  A sense of  rest and peace follows that feeling of true accomplishment.” Hajara Rahim

Try this in one area of your life, you will may be surprised at how good you will feel about yourself. Write about it in your journal and share your experience with a trustworthy companion.

Until next time, enjoy your amazing life!


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